Updated: Sep 6
Yet another interesting topic, which brings clarity to your thought process. People often complaining that their mind keeps thinking, something always going in their mind which holding them not to get out of it.
Thinking + (Re)Thinking = Overthinking
Overthinking is an extra thinking of something i.e. thinking too much and/or too long. Overthinking thinking is of two types:
Problem centric – thinking about a problem
Solution centric – thinking about a solution or result
People who think that they think more than an ordinary people, those people are fall under problem centric thinking. Let’s understand one by one using an example:
Suppose there is a person who is worried about financial problem which he currently dealing with. What thoughts will he will get in his brain:
……..what will happen to my savings? ……..how will I live without money? ……..how do I plan to low down my expenses? And many more.
Now, with problem centric thinking what will he think typically:
……..I wish I had done more in my childhood
……..I wish Papa got my admission in that college
……..would be in the other city or country
……..then he goes beyond and start thinking of negative thoughts and negative prediction of future.
Questions which he get in his mind:
……..how will I run the house
……..how will I get marry?
……..what will happen to the children?
……..how will I build home and as a result of his thinking, he or she completely depressed and becomes unhappy. The problem of such type is that it keeps increasing itself. You will start making judgments. From first to second, second to third and it keeps multiplying. It also consumes/ kill your time. You will become sad. Instead of preparing something for future, people continue to imagine and unable to create difference between reality and imagination. People get stuck within their own imaginary world or thinking.
People believe in solution centric thinking will be more towards futuristic approach and would think something like:
……..I am 25 years old now, so I can do this course which would help me to get a good job……..I can do a side business.
Such thinking is align on the way to future. They make decisions and believe in actions, but problem centric thinking just brings more problems to them and harm to their life, plus brings depression, illness, frustration.
“Don’t spend energy on worries or negative thoughts.” – Bruce Lee
Sometimes, we think so much about what could go wrong and irrationally. The brain occasionally acts like a five-year-old child who doesn’t know how and when to sit still. Judge yourself from the following considerations and decide - Are you among those over-thinkers?
I have trouble sleeping because it feels like my brain won't shut off.
I ask myself a lot of "what if..." questions.
I spend a lot of time thinking about things people say or events that I noticed during my day.
Thinking about conversations I had with someone people in my mind.
Recalling my past mistakes.
When someone says or acts in a way I don't like, I keep repeating it in my mind.
I spend a lot of time worrying about things I have no control over.
I can't get my mind off my worries.
Keep on thinking about awkward moments.
Drinking of too much of alcohol to make yourself in a calm state.
“A positive brain can never give you the negative thoughts” - J. Tisa
How can we stop overthinking?
You need to manage your overthinking and therefore we have outlined some of the powerful techniques to support you:
1. Meditation: We all have known about meditation. Indeed, I began meditating a couple of days prior. In my case, I will even now set aside some efforts to watch and receive reward of meditation. But ask someone who has experienced the difference; ask how it feels to be free from every thought. Of course, a cherish moment.
2. Stop waiting to be perfect: When I was young, I generally learn word-by-word, line-by-line and same wrote in my exam. Do you think it is required in any case?. When I stopped thinking of achieving perfection, I gave myself an opportunity to invest or explore different things.
3. Stay away from what-ifs: It is important to stay away from creating all the possible course of action because a negative thought could eat your entire day or maybe even a week. I truly understand that it is hard to stop thinking about what if this happens? What if that happens? But, all we should simply attempt to remain away.
“Turn on your life to the full and focus on the positive things.” – Matt Cameron
4. Share your concerns: It is always less mind consuming if you share your worries with someone. You can talk to a partner or a friend you trust or anyone you feel who is reasonable. Usually I write my negative thought on a paper and then tear the paper off. It is the most ideal way by which you can stay away from negative moments.
5. Accept that it is normal: Accepting anything makes it easier to overcome. Understand that it is completely normal to have negative thoughts over and over and there is enough potential in you to discard the thoughts away in a dustbin.
6. Get out of your mind: If a negative thought or news gets into your mind, fix few minutes which you are going to utilize on thinking about that. If you did something wrong or incorrectly, regrets may come up soon. Allocate yourself a fixed number of minutes to regret. In those minutes, think whatever you can, cry (if needed). After the time is over, stand up and tell yourself that, time has now gone, I can’t waste my precious time on this thing again.
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