How Should I Disregard & Overlook People's Judgement?
Updated: Feb 21
“When you judge a woman by her appearance, it doesn't define her, it defines you. Ladies, never allow yourself to be defined by someone's inability to appreciate your unique beauty” - Steve Maraboli
Creating an opinion for somebody based on their looks or their body isn’t only a childish thing, but it is obviously bad. It is a form of bullying that may lead to severe emotional trauma, especially at a young age. For the first time when I was in college - this is often a time when everyone wants to impress people and look good, but I had to listen to other things. Few people comment on my social media account and some other post suggestions. They told me that I used to be fat and I should opt for a morning walk or a run.
Studies show that quite 90% of women don’t seem to be happy with the way they look. Where does this emotional tolerance come from? Why do these women or girls have become more and more conscious about how they look, what they wear, what color they ought to have! Even actresses like Parineeti Copra, Sonakshi Sinha, and Vidya Balan have faced such reactions from people and have been judged by their body shape.
“Stop trying to fix your body. It was never broken.” — Eve Ensler
Whatever the reason, I acknowledged their comments and I started working on my body. After six months or so, when I lose few KGs, I surprised to determine the people's reaction. Now, they said that I started looking sick. Keeping going through all these things, I understood one thing that no matter what we look like, people will never be satisfied with it and they will never understand what we are facing. You have two options: stay happy with your body or suffer emotional stress. Whatever people say about your body, you should always not be disappointed with it. So, what do you do when someone makes fun of your body or looks?
No one has a 'perfect body'.
First of all, you have to accept that nobody has found the right fit body. On Instagram and social media, where we spend many hours every day, there are many scales set for a perfect body, like - if a girl is tall, her legs should be lean, her waist should be thin, her face is full, and so on... If you are feeling good about yourself, you don't have to pay attention to what others say. Do not ask anyone else about what you have to wear and whatnot. Remember that the perfect body is what you are proud of.
Does not mean the opinion of others.
Be stubborn and not be influenced by other people's opinions. Stop bothering yourself by their talk, irrespective of what they say about your body, mood, or looks. Yes, it is easy to say but difficult to do. Once you learn to control your emotions, your life is going to be far better. Therefore, when others say that you simply cannot do anything, then do not listen to their words. You will do what you would like.
People say bad about your insecurity.
The third thing to remember is that, if someone is attacking you, talking bad things about you, then chances are high that they are insecure about anything in their life. Insecure people try to humiliate others by making bad things or comments about them because they feel better about themselves by doing so.
“To be beautiful means to be yourself. You don’t need to be accepted by others. You need to accept yourself.” - Thich Nhat Hanh
Body shaming affects your whole life.
Finally, you have got to know that body-shaming or what others have said to your body is not easy to forget over time. It is not going to disappear on its own. You will need to undergo such things repeatedly - in high school, college, job, marriage, during pregnancy, or in old age. This has no end. You should just be ready and do not let their bitter words affect you.
Maybe someone does not like you; along the same lines, few of the people to whom you are nice or beautiful. Also, rather than focusing on things that you are not happy with, focus more on things that you really feel positive about. Don’t be such a person who talks bad things about others online only because you don't like that person. Don’t befall into the category of who talks rudely to another woman or man or abuses them. We do not need such people within our social circle or in the world.
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