Why Am I So Sensitive, Am I An Emotional Sponge?
Emotions, especially fear, anger, frustration, shock, are all energies. And you can always "catch" this negative energy spread by other people. Without even realizing it.
All people are emotional sponges, but the degree of "getting wet" is different for everyone.
If you are an "emotional sponge", you are probably praised by many for your kindness, for the fact that you are always ready to dig into other people's problems and help solve them.
Do many consider your reaction to everything that happens “uneven”? Are you filled with the feelings of others? If the answer is yes, then you are an "emotional sponge".
There are people who are very sensitive. Therefore, they are more empathic than others and more receptive. Everything that happens affects them more than others. Their emotions are almost always at their limit.
When they are sad, they are very sad; when they are happy, they are very happy. As a result, their feelings are not “average”. And for them, there are no other people's feelings; they all take too much to heart.
I Am An “Emotional Sponge”. And I Suffer From It.
You feel differently. For you, everything becomes “personal”. So, everything that happens, you take close to your heart. Anxiety and stress are all part of your life. Of course, you did not strive for this, but since you "absorb" other people's emotions, they become part of you.
Moreover, this problem is made worse by the fact that the emotions that others constantly convey to you are often negative. Of course, this is not your fault. You are not even aware of it. You are simply more sensitive than others, and this, on the one hand, is good, but on the other, it has its negative side.
"Emotional Sponge": Characteristic Features.
At some point, you realize that you are an “emotional sponge”. You are a person who is affected by everything that happens around you more than others. You are prone to "self-digging". Here are some signs of oversensitivity:
You feel differently than usual: everything that happens around you, you experience much more emotional.
You take everything too close to your heart: it does not matter whether a certain situation has something to do with you or not, you experience it as if you yourself are the culprit.
Your life is filled with stress, worries and unresolved problems: of course, you do not deliberately surround yourself with negativity, however, thanks to your excessive sensitivity, you absorb the emotions of all loved ones and strangers.
You are prone to introspection: since you are a sensual person, you are constantly trying to analyze not only the actions of people around, but also your own actions and feelings in order to improve yourself.
You know how to empathize: in any situation, you are always able to put yourself in the place of the speaker and understand his feelings.
You are sensitive to criticism: even if you try to ignore offensive comments, they still bring you to tears.
Do Not Rush To Be Acknowledge Other People's Feelings.
If you are an “emotional sponge,” you overreact. Situations that others are comfortable with will prompt you to react “disproportionately”. Imagine that there is a person sitting next to you on the bus or in the doctor's waiting room. If he is sad or sick, you unwittingly begin to feel the same way.
And, at the same time, you don't even really know what's wrong with him. You cannot distance yourself a little from the feelings and problems of other people and turn into an “emotional sponge”.
Take Care Of Your Health.
If this happens to you all the time, you need to try to change your approach to life. There is nothing wrong with empathy, but it is wrong to “attract” and “absorb” other people's pain and suffering.
“Perceiving” does not mean “absorbing”, but we often replace one thing with another. Firstly, you should not be responsible for other people's feelings, sorrows, for someone else's pain. If you “let them in”, they will add to your troubles, and this may end in an “explosion”.
Second, learn to distance yourself from overly negative emotions and try to surround yourself with positive people. Then you will "absorb" more positive rather than negative emotions.
Manage Emotional Overload And Use Your Shield.
Make sure you don't depend on other people in any company. You will need to boost your confidence.
You should have favorite places where you feed on positive energy. Better if they are in nature. Know where you need to go for an hour or two to rest and recharge your batteries. Let it be your place in the house, a park, a forest outside the city or a lake.
You can use a convenient form of protection. Every time you are in the company of difficult and unpleasant people, mentally imagine a white envelope hanging in the air. Think of this envelope as a shield that reflects all negativity and discomfort. Allow yourself to take only the positive from the environment.
Avoid The Source Of Anxiety And Concentrate On Breathing.
Start by talking to people you don't like from a remote distance than usual. Step back, stay away. This trick actually works.
Don't be afraid to hurt someone. If sad people are sitting nearby, change seats. Get up and walk away.
Breathing is what connects your brain to your being. Concentrate on your breathing for a few minutes. Breathe in calm and breathe out negativity. This will help you become aware of yourself in time and space, clear your head of fear and other difficult emotions.
Make a conscious effort to reduce the amount of mental energy you waste with negative people. Spending time with negative people can be the quickest way to ruin a good mood. They can reduce your motivation and change the way we feel. For these people, no matter how positive the situation is, it will always be easier for them to break it down and replace it with something negative.
To stop being an “emotional sponge”, one should not “cling” to negative feelings and experiences but let them go.
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